I think Briala and Shianni would be really sweet! Briala deserves better than Celene, and I love the idea of them combining their efforts to better the lives of elves in Thedas. 💙💚
TLDR: please help us get my gf from Texas to Pennsylvania safely.
So, I already mentioned some of the situation in my commissions post but as of December 3rd, 2018 my girlfriend Xiomara (was @peachpuzzle but she was forced to delete) has been no platformed by her abusive mother and is now being forced to pay $200 a month (on top of paying for her own eating expenses, public transportation and pain meds) despite being a minor who is currently trying to finish high school.
Not only does she need to cough up $200 a month, but she also needs $400 for driving lessons and $180+ for a bus ticket to a safer area once she turns 18 and is legally able to escape her abusive guardian. Xiomara is currently looking for two jobs, but since she can’t put in full time, they won’t be enough to cover everything, and try as i might, my commissions aren’t getting much traction.
Her mother’s also forcing her to go by her deadname again, doing random phone checks, tracing her calls, etc while extorting her Xiomara for money. She’s extremely emotionally abusive, threatening to kill herself whilst driving with Xiomara as a passenger, straight up telling her that she hates her, etc. It’s an incredibly toxic situation and we’re aiming to get her out by February.
here’s my paypal (all funds will be be going to her once she gets a bank account) if anyone could help that would be amazing, u can either donate or commission me, ty for ur time
okay guys some bad news and some good news: since i am Big Disabled and art Hurts, i can no longer take on any new commissions atm,,
however we’re so close to our goal that im pretty sure we can make it with donations alone?
so, if you can please donate, or boost this: here’s my paypal
i really want to normalise the idea amongst lgbt youth that its okay to switch labels as you further understand your identity. you’re not a traitor or a fake if you realise you’re bi instead of a lesbian, or if you’re a trans woman instead of a gay man. it’s really difficult and scary to be lgbt and it’s doubly hard to deal with a shifting identity amongst all that so… be kind to yourself. you’re learning and figuring yourself out and nothing is set in stone. let yourself figure out what feels most comfortable to you. and for those who are secure in their lgbt identities, particularly adults, don’t make kids feel bad for switching between labels. we’ve all had identity crises in our lives, so provide support and understanding rather than unforgiving attitudes.
this post is not an excuse to jump on the “of course you can’t label yourself at a young age” bandwagon either. young people who stick with and feel comfortable in an identity from an early age are just as valid as you are.
Additionally, on the other side of this - if you know someone who switches labels, it’s also your job to not make them feel like a traitor or a fake. If you’re their friend or you say you support them, then be their friend and support them. If you don’t understand how they could say they were one thing however long ago and now it’s something different, this is your chance to learn, not reject.
And if they later choose to go back to their original label, then they still weren’t faking it. Those were the feelings they had at the time.